The power of Negative Manifestation, or Why we keep getting what we don’t want in life…

You have all probably read the book, rented the DVD and tried every suggestion in The Secret, but when it comes to ‘manifesting’ what you think you want in life, the question remains, “why don’t I receive what I desire so badly?”

It’s amazing that almost every time you desperately tell the Universe you don’t want a particular something or other, bang, Karma kicks in and you are given bucket loads of exactly the thing you could just as well do without.

Whether you call it instant karma or just instant mis-manifestation, you have to agree that it is quite frustrating.

The object here is to explore just why manifestation doesn’t quite work for many of you, so that you can learn how to actually receive more of what you want from life.

The biggest question you should ask yourselves when wanting to successfully manifest is “Do you really believe that you deserve what you are asking for??

When you ask the Universe ever so nicely if we could possibly win the lottery, nothing seems to happen for you.

There are a few theories why this is usually the case. First, many people don’t honestly believe that it can really happen to them. When it comes to lottery winnings, most folks are talking about financial figures well beyond their usual frame of reference.

If you truly want to manifest something, you have to fully comprehend what you are asking for, and you can’t have a single doubt in your mind that you really want the thing you are requesting of the universe.

As you try to manifest something as big as a lottery win, questions begin popping up in your mind to distract you from your original goal. You may begin to wonder, should I share my good fortune? How would I divide the money? What should I buy? What should I invest in?

The amount of money most people can visualize when thinking about a lottery win is intimidating and even frightening. You may ask yourself, how on earth could I ever manage this much dough? Would I blow the whole lot in a just few wild shopping sprees?

When trying to manifest money, it may be wiser to ask for an amount you know you can handle. Keep in mind that manifestation has no rules regarding frequency or repetition. The universe is infinite, and there’s always enough to go around those who know the proper way to ask for what you want.

People who successfully manifest and affirm their financial needs on a daily basis never receive messages from the Universe saying “hold on a minute, enough is enough!” or “time to give someone else a chance now, OK?”

When our desire for the ‘big win’ gets all mixed up with the other chatter going on in our heads, it will only result in our ending up with nothing.

Imagine making a telephone call on a party line where you share the line with 10 other people talking at the same time. Your message is so confused and garbled that none of your fellow raconteurs can understand a single word you’re saying.

Another important fact about ‘communicating’ what you desire to the Universe is that it understands simple sentences better than complex discourse.

The real rule of thumb is to try to use nouns whenever possible. The Universe apparently isn’t so big on adjectives.

If you want to get the message across quickly to your guardians, keep it simple and to the point. Once you have a full understanding of what it is you are asking for, you are highly likely to succeed in communicating your wishes.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with starting our manifestation with the words “I want...”

Leave behind what you have been taught since childhood about not saying “I want, I want, I want…”! It’s not rude or insensitive to look out for your own self interest – it’s healthy and desirable.

If you still feel uncomfortable about asking directly and clearly for what you need, then ask yourself why universal materialization hasn’t worked for you up to now!

When manifesting, remember that it really is ok to say “I want”. In fact, it is the preferred means of request. Using “I want...” gets the message across that you really are serious and places your request in a context that the Universe can clearly understand.

We already know that this works successfully in reverse. How many times have you asked ever so nicely not to have something? Take for example, the statement “I don't want any more debt!”, or, “I don’t want to be sick!”

Going back to my telephone line theory, the unintentional message you are transmitting to the Universe is a negative reinforcement of “more debt” or “more illness”!

As we noted earlier, the Universe doesn’t like adjectives. When we say we “want no more” or “don’t want more” of something, the message transmitted is, “I want more.”

So much for potential language barriers. Now consider the subject of visualization. Large parts of The Secret touched on this. You can believe that when done properly, this always works!

So, when you want that diamond ring or that bright red sports car, you need to see it, touch it, experience it, own it and enjoy it in your minds eye. This adds real power to your manifestations and transmits a message to the Universe that you honestly believe that you deserve what you desire.

If you want more money in your life (and who doesn’t), picture yourself in your mind’s eye sitting at a table in front of a big pile of cash. Touch the cash, “own” the cash, feel good as you ruffle through the pile of currency with your fingers.

Next, visualize the cash expanding, multiplying and dividing, as much as you desire. Feel good with “your” money. Know that the money will keep increasing as much as you wish. It’s yours! It’s ok to feel really good about what you have in your hands.

Saying “thank you” is another very important part of manifestation. We always want to keep in the Universes “good books” in order to keep manifesting. Remember to thank the Universe for the wonderful gift you have received, even before you receive it!

This leads to yet another major element of manifestation: Belief. How many of us can honestly say that we believe we deserve what we desire?

When you are honest with yourself, you must admit that most of the time you cannot picture receiving what you desire, or that you don’t believe that what you are asking for is actually well within your reach.

Therefore, the “secret” to truly achieving and acquiring your desires is to visually picture yourself holding, touching, smelling, experiencing, and most importantly, owning them. You must truly believe that you deserve what we are asking for.

Finally, you must be ready to let something go in your life in order to make 'room' for the thing you are requesting.

As an example, imagine asking for a new shiny bright red sports car, when you already have a Honda Civic in the garage.

If you get hung up on where you’re going to park the new car, or why you need a new car when there is a perfectly good Honda already in the garage, you’re going to block yourself from receiving your request.

Once you decide to let the old car go, you transmit a message that you are ready and willing to welcome the new one. This is true of anything you ask for in life, whether it is emotional, spiritual or physical.
Imagine asking for a passionate lover to come in to your life when you are already stuck with a couch potato mate lounging on your couch. Just isn’t going to work, is it?

If you have the energy for two lovers in your life, well, more power to you. But, imagine the energy it would take to pander to the every whim of said couch potato, while also maintaining the energy and the inclination to look your best and be in the best of moods to entertain your new 'love interest'. Even the most energetic of us would have the hardest of times.

To ask and receive exactly what you want from life, it is important to carefully choose the wording and examine your motivation with regards to what you believe will make you happy.

Without truly considering the origin or consequences of your request, you can ask for great riches, but if Grandpa Jack drops dead and leaves you his fortune, this probably isn’t what you originally envisioned.

If you ask for a promotion and your best friend at work is given the sack so you can have her job, this doesn’t really benefit anyone either.

It is important to end your list of desires with “For the best to all concerned”, or “in the most harmonious and beneficial way to all”.

When asking for something material, adding “free or even better, for the best to all concerned” will usually cover all the bases. This helps to ensures that nobody goes into debt in order for you to receive what you want: nobody has to suffer hardship, or give up anything on your behalf. This goes back again to the exact language you use when manifesting.


So, to summarize our steps on the path to true manifestation:

• Keep it simple: use nouns so that you can be sure your message gets through loud and clear.

• Remember that the Universe is likely to become confused with the over use of adjectives or flowery language, and that you can end up with something you really don't want, or something that doesn't quite 'fit the bill'.

• Believe that you actually deserve what you are asking for.

• Be certain that you clearly understand and comprehend exactly what you are asking for, and be mindful to be clear about the way you want to receive what you are asking for. We would not want to receive our ‘gift’ at someone else’s expence.

• Remember that you must give up one thing to make space for another. Giving up the old to welcome the new is a cathartic gesture, and keeps us ready for new things in the future.

• Always ask that your desires be met with the minimum of disruption to anyone else.

• Visualize your desire - see what you want in your mind’s eye and believe that you deserve it.

• Finally, once you have received what you have asked for, be sure to say “Thank You”! It never hurts to keep in the Universes good graces because you never know what you might need to ask for next.

©2009 L.Matthews